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How to stop doubting yourself after rejection

It’s easy to get yourself down after receiving rejection. Whether you hoped to get a full-time position for a company you’d love to work for, a training course or even a romantic interest, the first thing most of us seem to do is doubt ourselves after receiving that dreaded message: ‘unfortunately, on this occasion you have been unsuccessful.’ 

As a job hunter in the current climate, rejection is sadly expected for most before they even apply. Most people who are looking for work are aware of the overwhelming number of people after a job. Now It is even more difficult to find the motivation to keep going or stay positive. 

Here are a few tips I have learned from my experience of rejection: 

1. Know your self-worth 

This may seem like an obvious one, but you need to remind yourself you are worthy of achieving your goals in life. EVERYDAY. Have you received a few rejections or even just one and thought, ‘maybe I’m not even good enough to do this’? If you clicked on this article, you probably have. I can guarantee most of the population have at one point in their life too. It isn’t simple, especially if you are a self-critical person. Though if you remind yourself everyday that you are worthy, you might just start to believe it. 

2. Just keep trying, you’ll get there 

This is what friends and family tell me time and time again when I’ve received rejection. It’s true, you do get there. If you persevere and push past the doubt, you will eventually get where you want to be or pretty close to it. 

Author Mary Anne Radmacher said, ‘Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.’ Of course you will feel defeated after receiving a rejection. The trick is to not let rejection defeat you. We learn from our mistakes through reflection, then move on and try again. 

3. It is not always your fault 

If you are one of 250 applicants for one job, it is certainly not your fault you were declined the job. Competition is tough and you were most likely a suitable candidate, simply because you read the job description and thought, ‘I could do that, sounds good to me!’ It’s just that the employer has to make a tough decision and only hire for the position they need. 

Next time you think the employer didn’t like you or that you did something wrong, tell yourself all the things you know you definitely did do right and give yourself praise for having the courage to apply or go for the interview. It’s easy to look at the negatives to our actions and forget the positives, but perhaps it’s time we gave ourselves more credit. 


23 Apr 2021

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Raphael Posted 3 weeks ago
Great post, i felt encouraged!!! ????

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